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1. It’s okay if you lose interest in your story. It doesn’t mean you wasted your time; it means you’re growing in your hobby.
2. It’s okay not to want to publish your work; that doesn’t mean your writing isn’t worth reading. It means you have different goals than some other writers.
3. It’s okay if you need a break sometimes. It’s frankly unrealistic to think you never will.
4. It’s okay to write fanfiction; that doesn’t make you any less of a writer but makes you that much more of a fan.
5. It’s okay to sometimes have self-doubt. After all, you are human and sometimes as humans it’s easy to fall into that trap. Sometimes the feeling doesn’t even have anything to do with the writing but has everything to do with being overwhelmed, mentally exhausted and ready to give up. Don’t give up.
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when i was post op after top surgery i had a good friend there with me to help recover. but the nurse didnt get the memo and when i woke up she was like “ok i’m gonna go get your girlfriend and bring her in to see you!” and i remember being so zonked on anesthesia and so disoriented i just laid there thinking wow…… all that an they’re bringing me a girlfriend too this place is amazing
Alternate Universe (also known as alternate reality), is commonly abbreviated as AU and it is a descriptor used to characterize fanworks which change one or more elements of the source work’s canon (such as the setting, characterization, etc.). The term most often refers to fanfiction, but fanart can also depicted the characters in AUs.
This post is simply listing down all of the Alternate Universes. Majority of them are self-explanatory, but if you still want an explanation than clickHERE which goes into detail with each one. It’s also the finalized version, which is up-to-date unlike the old post that people have been reblogging.
shinzo abe day was incredible. still not over seeing all the rumours about what happened, joining everyone in wondering how the fuck a shotgun assassination could have happened in japan, and then seeing the first photo of the doohickey
Lemme look something up…
This is literally some Looney Toons level bullshit
One of the really fun and interesting things about writing a polyamorous romance as someone who is ambiamorous/polyamorous is finding new ways to make sure the narrative hits the expected genre beats without just sort of… mushing it into a pre-existing monogamous romance mold, which is what I’m afraid happens a lot of the time.
Trust me, it was my job in the publishing house to make them fit that mold. I hated it.
Reading other poly-centric romances, I can always somewhat tell when someone is writing polyamory from a sexual fantasy aspect (zero shade; I’m here for all the group sex) without actually considering how it functions as a relationship dynamic, which can often come off as… well.
It’s lacking for me as a romance.
Erotica-wise, it’s fine. But it misses the romantic beats for me that I want as a polyamorous-leaning person.
There’s so much emphasis on the polycule and never the individual dyads within the larger relationship.
For example, in a triad, there are actually four relationships to handle.
The dyad between A + B. The dyad between A + C. The dyad between B + C. And the overarching relationship between A + B + C.
With monogamous-leaning authors or authors that’ve been pressed into conforming to the pre-existing genre beats, there’s a tendency to treat the relationship as a homogenous mass where everything is fair and equal, and you treat all your partners the exact same way.
And I get it. It’s easier to write everything as peachy-keen and to have external conflict be resolved with either acceptance or a brave confrontation.
But it doesn’t always land for me as someone who wants to see my style of love represented in the genre.
In healthy polyamory, either closed or open, each relationship is unique in its own way. Taking the example of a triad again, the way A acts with C likely differs from how A acts with B.
And that’s a good thing!
Because C might not want the same things as B, so trying to treat them both the exact same is a surefire way to make sure someone isn’t getting their needs met, and that will lead to conflict.
Polyamory isn’t striving for equality between partners but rather equity.
What are your individual needs, and how do I meet them, as well as meet the needs of my other partner(s)? What do you want from the larger relationship as a whole? How do we accommodate everyone without making someone feel neglected or uncomfortable? How do we show this in the narrative? How do we make sure character A isn’t just treating B the same as C in every interaction? Do they ever fall into that pitfall? How do they remedy it?
It seems like common sense when you write it out like that, but it’s a major pitfall I see time and time again. The characters never alternate their approach between partners, if there’s any focus on the individuals at all.
The other major telltale thing I’ve noticed is that taking time to be with one partner is seen as a step down from the “goal” of the greater polycule.
The narrative is framed in such a way that they might start out with individual dates, but the end goal of the romance is to eventually be together 100% of the time all the time, and wanting individual time alone with any one partner is somehow “lesser.”
Which is the goal of romance in monogamy, but it’s not the goal of romance in polyamory.
Granted, you do need to end on a Happy Ever After or Happy For Now for it to fit the genre requirement. And a nice way of tying that up is to have everyone together at the end as a happy polycule all together all at once. I’m not disputing that as a narrative tool. I’m just pointing out that there’s a tendency to present those moments as the sum total of the relationship when in actuality, there are multiple relationships that need to end happily ever after.
The joy of polyamorous love is the joy of multitudes. It’s the joy of experiencing new things, both as individuals and as a polycule. If you’re not taking care of the individual dyads, however, your polycule is going to crash and burn. You cannot avoid that. So why, then, is there such avoidance of it in stories meant to appeal to us?
Is it simply inexperience on behalf of the author? Or is it that they’re not actually being written for us? Is it continued pressure to meet certain genre beats in a largely monogamous-centric genre? All of the above?
Either way, I’m having fun playing around with it and doing all the things we were warned against in the publishing house.
I’m having fun with Nathan and Vlad enjoying their own private dynamic that is theirs and theirs alone. I’m having fun with Ursula and Nathan being so careful and vulnerable around each other. I’m absolutely 100% here for the chaos of Vlad and Ursula without a chaperone. And I’m here for the chaos of Vlad and Ursula together and Nathan’s fond, loving eye roll as he trails after them, too enamored to tell either of them no because where would the fun in that be…
Anyway. Don’t mind me. Just getting my thoughts out while everyone else is in bed.
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